The gap between generations is widening
In 1973, the average age of a first-time mother was 25.9 years (28 for fathers). Fast forward 50 years to 2023, and that number has risen to 30.9 years (34.7 for fathers).
This shift has its advantages—parents today are often more financially stable and emotionally prepared before starting a family. However, a significant downside is that the gap between the oldest and youngest in society is now wider than ever. This can lead to alienation between generations, making it harder for them to connect.
As the over-65 population grows and mental health struggles increase among young people, could fostering stronger intergenerational relationships be part of the solution?
If you’re in the middle—whether as a parent, grandparent, teacher, or community leader—you can play a key role in bridging this gap. Here’s a 7-point guide to get started:
It has become fashionable to criticise different generations, often fuelled by social and political divides. However, choosing respectful language can go a long way, especially when modelling behaviour for younger generations. Encourage mutual appreciation instead of reinforcing stereotypes.
Find common ground by highlighting positive characteristics. For example, saying, "You’re incredibly thoughtful about gift-giving—just like your grandfather" helps a young person feel proud of their identity and fosters a sense of connection.
Showing photos or videos of older relatives when they were younger helps younger generations see them as people who have lived full and exciting lives. Similarly, sharing recent photos and videos of younger family members with older relatives keeps them engaged and connected.
In the digital age, receiving physical mail feels special. Keep brightly coloured notepaper, pens, and stickers easily accessible so younger family members can spontaneously write notes to their grandparents. Letters create a lasting connection that digital messages often lack.
Long visits involving multiple generations can be challenging due to different energy levels and interests. Instead of planning big, occasional gatherings, focus on short but frequent interactions—whether through visits, video calls, or voice messages. Consistency builds strong relationships.
Games are a fantastic way to bridge generations. Chess, Uno, Scrabble, and card games are easy to learn and enjoyable for all ages. These games can be played physically or digitally, making them an effective and entertaining bonding tool.
Choose a book, TV show, or film to enjoy together, either synchronously (at the same time) or asynchronously (at your own pace). Discussing characters, plot twists, and predictions creates an easy and engaging way to keep conversations flowing between generations.
Fostering relationships between younger and older generations isn’t just about reducing loneliness or strengthening family ties—it’s about creating a society that values wisdom, tradition, and fresh perspectives. By making small, intentional efforts, we can ensure that younger and older generations feel connected, appreciated, and understood.
Start with just one of these tips today and watch the relationships in your life grow stronger!
